Making a friends cut

[measi]

I've decided to make a friends cut today.

Bottom line is this - I enjoy talking with other people, including those who do disagree with me, provided that we can exchange thoughts in a respectful manner. However, I also consider my journal a sanctuary for my own thoughts, and wish to be able to express them comfortably. When I feel uncomfortable, I need to solve that issue.

A lot of this discomfort comes from Doctor Who fandom. I should not need to justify that I am enjoying a tv show, nor that I am excited by the changes that are upcoming in the show, while also being sad that another era is ending. I do not feel that I should have to choose between the two. Enjoying the Doctor/Rose ship is not something that should prohibit me from also enjoying Moffat's work. Frankly, it doesn't. I really don't care to defend Moffat's decisions or his work, particularly to people who hate him so much that such discussions are pointless.

There are things on LJ that I just don't want to read about. Particularly with another year before Who is back full time, and especially once the series starts up again. And likewise, I don't think those who so strongly disagree with me should have to read my thoughts that they disagree with so strongly.

We've gone in different directions, and that's okay. You have every right to post what you want, how you want. But I need to disconnect because of it.

I wish those I've had to defriend best wishes for the future, and I'm sorry for my shortcomings that I'm simply too uncomfortable with what you're posting, and too uncomfortable knowing that someone who disagrees with me so strongly has access to all of my thoughts.

Comments

[aibhinn-fics.livejournal.com]

Enjoying the Doctor/Rose ship is not something that should prohibit me from also enjoying Moffat's work. Frankly, it doesn't.

*applause*

[measi.livejournal.com]

Thanks, m'dear. I know we talked about this months ago, and your comments to me really are ones I need to take more to heart.

[roxyk630.livejournal.com]

I ... I really can't say it anybetter than aibhinn did.

*applause*

[wiggiemomsi.livejournal.com]

"... I'm sorry for my shortcomings that I'm simply too uncomfortable with what you're posting, and too uncomfortable knowing that someone who disagrees with me so strongly has access to all of my thoughts."

Hey, being uncomfortable with having to read strongly worded opposing viewpoints is NOT a shortcoming! It's only common sense to want to enjoy LJ, and not be harassed by those who are argumentative and disagreeable. More power to you, I say!

*Supportive Hugs*

[measi.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. Much appreciated.

I honestly do enjoy reading viewpoints that I disagree with. On more than one occasion, my opinion has changed (or at least broadened to "okay, I definiltely see where you're coming from with this"). I believe different opinions are important.

But some are just so hateful toward those who enjoy particular parts of fandom - it's not worth it.

[myownwench.livejournal.com]

Yo dude, you already know how I feel about this :)

[measi.livejournal.com]

I do. And even if I didn't, I'm sure you'd smack me upside the head with it. ;)

[chicklet73.livejournal.com]

I should not need to justify that I am enjoying a tv show

Yes.

Enjoying the Doctor/Rose ship is not something that should prohibit me from also enjoying Moffat's work.

YES.

That is all.

[here-be-dragons.livejournal.com]

Above all else, your journal should always be a safe space for you, where you feel comfortable. I've defriended a few people over the years because they made my space feel unsafe. It isn't an easy decision, is it? But ultimately, it's what will be best for you, I have no doubt. *hugs*

[buckbeakbabie.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I did the same. I just don't want to be constantly bombarded with negative things about a show I still love (even if it's taken a backseat in my fangirling right now). It harshes my squee. So choppity chop, friends cut.

Hugs.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_faerietears_/]

sorry you're getting crap for being an indiviual and having your own ideas/thoughts.. kinda glad i haven't really gotten into all the Who insanity.. i love to watch it when i catch it on tv but i miss so much that i'm kinda out of the loop.. but i agree that your journal is a place to feel comfortable and when that stops happening then its time to make changes...

so outside of who-news.. how is your stitching coming along? any new pics of that and the cats? are you going to take before/after pics of your house as you do stuff this year? love to see them :)

[emeraldstar.livejournal.com]

fandom is awful in that. glad I can still read your post :) ITs a great show but its not life. lifes much more intresting.

[measi.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I love Doctor Who. However, it's definitely not the most important thing in my life. I don't see a reason to put up with people who decide that I'm stupid (via lumping everyone together) for enjoying the work of a particular writer/producer.

[butterfly.livejournal.com]

Your own journal should definitely be a safe space for your thoughts and feelings.

*hugs*

[measi.livejournal.com]

(hugs)

Thanks m'dear. And I know that we don't agree on Moffat. But I do appreciate that your comments are respectful on the matter, and I hope that you feel mine are as well.

[ariestar.livejournal.com]

It's not opposing views that you are filtering out with this, I know. It's impoliteness, negative attitudes toward you expressing your own views, and just shit you don't want to read anymore. Welcome to LJ.